life is all about choices

i'm seething.. but i feel bad for feeling this way..

the bf is s'posed to come my hse for a family reunion dinner which my parents invited him a couple of weeks ago.. it's an annual pre-reunion reunion dinner wif my dad's side of the relatives.

few days back, he got an invitation frm a fren for a dinner on the same nite. he told me he wanted to go although my family 'booked' him first. i understand and empathise his motive behind it. but right now it's a dilemma, coz on the surface, it seems wrong to go for a fren's gathering which invitation came later, but the motive behind it is greater.

of coz, if it was me i would also rather meet my friends and be myself than meet the relatives and feel awkward half the time. it's due to this that makes me question the pureness of his motive.. i know it's not right but i can't help feeling this way. sm how i keep getting the feeling that he wants to get out of dinner wif my family, n subconciously using his friend as an excuse to not have to go..

on one hand, it's my family, on the other hand, it's his friends. i wonder how will it be if our roles were reversed..

he could join my family for dinner and meet his frens for after-dinner activities, but qn is, we haf no idea wat time dinner at my side ends, and whether his friends have after-dinner activities.

no perfect solution. i know i won't be v happy if he doesn't join my family for dinner, but if he's here, but his heart is elsewhere, wat's the point?? knowing him, he'll probably be impatiently waiting for the time when it's polite for him to leave.. n in situations like this, it will normally cause some unhappiness between us..

can anyone come up with a perfect solution? is there a perfect solution?? m i being too selfish??? aargh.. y m i getting so pissed about it?

i told him to juz go for dinner with his friends, and forget about my side, i'll explain to my parents, they'll understand. but y m i still pissed and unhappy about it? y m i the one who can't get over it? i dun understand myself.

what will be ur choice or decision?

I have made my decision and thanks to a couple of other ppl who provided me with 3rd party perspective.. i know the correct thing to do, i juz needed help in getting there. thanks!