Came home from parents' place in the evening with juz two of us n helper. She had a meltdown in the car and after telling her off for a few seconds I decided to 换位思考。so I tried to figure out why she was so emotional and everything we said her reply was 'I don't want'.
Then I realised. While at my parents' she was watching baby shark halfway when we told her it was time to go home. She was unwilling but she followed quietly on her new skate scooter. Reached ground floor, she still wanted to play but we bundled her into the car. In the car she said she wanted to eat biscuits but we said no cos it was too close to dinner time.
So whatever we suggested after that was met with a 'no', 'I don't want' cos she was frustrated already.
With that a new understanding dawned on me. So I let her cry it out n calm down on her own. And after that when I asked her if she felt better she could smile n say yes to me.
Much better accomplishment than to tell her off or keep asking her 'whats wrong what u want'
But patience needed. One step closer to enlightenment.
